Warning: the opinions in this blog do not reflect anyone but myself In regards to pregnancy, babies, and relationships people always make you think its all sunshine and rainbows.
They never warn you about the real things, and therefore you feel alone and flat out crazy when your life isnt as perfect.
Well...I'm going to change that. They talk about the good, im going to talk about the bad and the ugly. We will skip pregnancy for now...youll have to wait for kid #2, but in the mean time check out "Belly Laughs" by Jenny McCarthy. It's perfect.
But what I can currently write about is kids and marriage. At first (and a lot of the time after) your tired - you are lucky if your kids sleep cause mine is almost 2 and still doesn't sleep), hormonal, unappreciated, unnattractive...I can go on all day. And Daddys too (i don't know everything they feel because my husband keeps it all in), but you feel neglected, tired, also unappreciated, left out, and much more I'm sure. And no matter how much you (daddy) do help and do the things we want...its never enough. Its a lose lose situation for everyone.
You will both feel the way you do no matter what either of you do about it. You just always need to keep the lines of communication open and talk about your feeling...cause it can really tear you two apart. Just know it won't last forever and you will get through it. Also have compassion for each other...know you both have feelings and its hard on both of you.
Your intimate life will possibly, at one point or another, take a big hit too...also know that's normal...again we are all feeling different things and that takes a toll on our drive too. That too will pass (hopefully...i still have my fingers crossed...no your not alone!).
And i want you all to know...I love my son and husband more than anything in this world...just because I've gone through some crazy nutty things lately...though I want to run away screaming sometimes...that doesnt change how much I love them! And know...your not alone if you feel any of these ways, some of them...or different things...there's someone out there, also not talking about it, that is going through the same exact things your not crazy!
Again, everyone is different, and I can't speak for everyone. I just want to talk about my experiences in the case that there is even one person out there that can relate.